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  1. Debi

    *big big big hugs* I’m so feeling you right now, Hannah. It just really, really, REALLY sucks. I’m sorry that your life is now one less Jerome and I wish healing to come wending through your heart as the days go by. *more big hugs*

  2. leaf (the indolent cook)

    Oh! I knew something was wrong from your last post, but didn’t know it was something like this. I am so sorry for your loss… much love to all of you who knew Jerome. Beautiful tribute.

  3. Victoria (District Chocoholic)

    I’m so sorry to hear about your friend. Jerome sounds like he was a wonderful person.

  4. Bryan

    *hug*… I shuddered a little at how personal and real this post felt. Sorry you lost a good friend. Life cantake such unexpected turns, even at such a young age.

  5. Amber Shea @Almost Vegan

    Oh, Hannah…I am so sorry. I don’t know what else to say. My heart hurts for you.

  6. Leah

    Sweetheart, im so sorry to hear your friend Jerome has passed away 🙁

    Sending you lots of hugs xoxo

  7. Elisabeth Emter

    Dear Hannah,
    I’m a German married to an Aussie. We live with our two children in Madison, Wisconsin, USA. My husband’s family lives in Melbourne. A couple of weeks ago I found your page while looking for a recipe for vegan marzipan. I got hooked on the marzipan and your page.
    For days I wanted to write to you to tell you how much I enjoy your blogs and your recipes. When I read your last entry I was very puzzled. I could feel that you are sad, but I had no context for your pain. I’m very sorry that you lost your friend. It is unfair. I cannot say anything comforting. And why should I. I’m a complete stranger to you. But something of your straight forward writing touched me. And since you brightened and sweetened my days with your recipes and blogs, I want to say something more than I’m sorry. If this image: From now on you will walk with a hole in your heart. The human heart is amazing. It can beat on with many holes in it. Mine does. With every beat I feel a little bit of pain, sometimes more intense, sometimes dulled. The hole was very painful in the beginning. But then I got used to it. I made peace with it like I made peace with the fact that I need reading glasses now. More holes came. Still beating on. If you will have to walk with a hole in your heart, my guess is that through this hole your friend Jerome will be looking in your life. He will be always there. But it is not fair.
    Thank you so much for your wonderful writing and your recipes! I’m very grateful that I found your page.

  8. Lou

    Hannah, I’m so so sorry. I am typing this with tears, I can feel the love you have
    for Jerome through your words. I really am so sorry. Much love to you, and of course all of Jerome’s friends and family xxx

  9. Hotly Spiced

    What an incredible loss. That is so sad. Jerome was just too young. That is incredibly cruel. I’m so sorry you have lost someone so special. What a difficult time for you his sister, his fiancee and all his family and friends. xx

  10. Sig

    Heya darling, I’m so so sorry to hear about Jerome. He sounds like he was a wonderful person and if he managed to capture your heart in such a wonderful way then I know he was even more special.

    Much love and tight-hugs to you and his loved ones…


  11. theresa

    Aw Hannah, I’m so sorry to hear about your friend. What a terrible thing to go through. Keep your chin up and your face full of Timtams, if that helps. And breathing and hugging and chocolate and animals and nature and sad movies and books. That’s what works for me when I’m grieving, anyways. I hope you remember the best things about Jerome and the pain dulls quickly for you.

  12. Mike

    I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your special friend Hannah. Sometimes life doesn’t seem fair. You are a richer person from having been Jerome’s friend and will (I reckon) continue to draw inspiration from having known and loved him and shared so many fun times together.

  13. Catherine McLean

    Oh, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. 26 is far too young to die of cancer.

    Much love


  14. Lorraine @ Not Quite Nigella

    Darling Spay Lady, I’m sorry to hear that your dear friend passed away. This is a beautiful post to remember him by xxx

  15. Camille

    Hannah, my heart goes out to you, and all of Jerome’s loved ones. Your beautiful rse is a lovely tribute – moving and heartfelt. You’ve got me welling up over here. Big, big hugs!

    1. Camille

      That’s supposed to say “prose”.

  16. Lauren

    I’m so sorry this happened. It sounds like a wonderful friendship, though, and this post was touching to read. We should all aspire to leave our friends with such beautiful memories, should the unthinkable happen.

  17. Cindy

    Oh Hannah – I’m so sorry.

  18. Lisa

    Life can be so unfair. Although I don’t know you, the beauty of your writing and tastiness of your treats amazes me. I am so sorry for the loss of you and your family. It is truly amazing that you can see the wonder in life at such a dark time: hold on to those magical memories x

  19. Silvia

    I’m so sorry to hear that. Your last post just transmitted that something was seriously wrong.
    You wrote a wonderful post for the world (and us) to get to know a little bit the Jerome you are missing.

  20. Vien @ We Dare Food

    I’m so sorry to hear about your friend:( He sounds like an amazing person and I’m sure that he’ll be sorely missed. I wish just pop over and give you a hug!!!

  21. Johanna GGG

    So sorry to hear of your loss – am glad you had the opportunity to spend time with him especially recently but agree that life is horribly unfair! He sounds like a great friend. Warm wishes to you and to his family.

  22. Alayna @ Thyme Bombe

    Oh Hannah, I’m so sorry. I lost one of my closest friends in a car accident two years ago and it was nearly a year and a half before I could go an entire day without thinking about her for even a split second. I remember feeling hotly ashamed and embarrassed when I realized that I hadn’t thought about her the day before. It seemed that it was my job to remember her and I had failed at it. Of course I’ve forgiven myself for that by now, and instead when something reminds me of her I get really happy that I’ve been given a wonderful moment to remember my friend. You’ll get there with Jerome, where thinking of him brings you more joy than sadness, where his memory becomes a highlight rather than a shadow. All that separates you from that wonderful feeling is time.

  23. Helen (Grab Your Fork)

    Oh the hugs I wish I could give you right now! Jerome sounds like the most wonderful friend and I am truly sorry for your loss. Your tribute to him was beautifully written – I think we all felt like we caught a glimpse of this incredible being 🙂

  24. Catherine

    Dear Hannah,
    It’s okay to delete, it’s okay to find other things to talk about, it’s okay to say nothing, it’s okay to let the tears fall into your plate. These are the unfair things. The huge unfair things that should not happen but do. Sending you big big hugs from afar.

  25. Tracy

    Hanna, I am truly sorry for your loss. My thoughts go out to you and his family. I am sending you many hugs.

  26. Y

    My condolences to you, and also to all his loved ones. x

  27. SarahKate (Mi Casa-Su Casa)

    Your love for your friend shines through this post. So brave of you to write this and share it. For people like us, writing can be a kind of therapy I think. I hope that writing this brought you some sense of peace.

  28. Heidi

    Hannah…I am so sorry that you’ve had to go through this. & the pain that jerome’s wife must be in right now. & his family. All of you who loved him. It’s just awful. So unfair. He sounds like a wonderful man who brought much joy to others. F***k. Thinking of you all. Love.
    Heidi xo

  29. Kari @ bite-sized thoughts

    Oh darling, I am so very sorry. I read your comment on my blog and inhaled with such force that I nearly choked. Now I understand your last few posts / comments / status updates. I’m glad you are able to remember the good things and the good times. I hope the funeral can be a celebration of his life as well as a noting of the loss. Life is so unfair and sometimes so very hard to understand xox

  30. Sarah B @ Bake + Bike

    I’m so sorry Hannah. I can’t imagine losing such a close friend. Your words are beautiful and I hope you can breathe a little easier after letting it out.

  31. Bianca @ Confessions of a Chocoholic

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend, Hannah. *virtual hug from Boston*

  32. Libby

    Oh, dear Hannah. I’m so very sorry to hear about your loss. Jerome sounds like an amazing person who was obviously very loved by many. Your tribute was amazing and so powerful that it clearly touched me and obviously quite a number of your friends and readers. I know it’s not an easy time for you at the moment but I know that you’re a strong person so chin up 🙂 xoxo

  33. Ellie@Fit for the Soul

    Oh goodness Hannah~thanks for sharing such a beautiful and heart felt post~! I can somewhat understand your pain as I’ve been empathizing for the family of a member at our church who passed away this week….the funeral was yesterday, and I can see how painful death is no matter what. I just hope you and Jerome’s family can find comfort in God’s love, and keep your chin up and don’t give up! I’m sure Jerome made such a great impact in people’s lives, and that testament alone is so beautiful to those involved in his life! We (bloggers) love ya and are here for ya! Hope you don’t mind my sharing about the death of the church member. I just thought it would be somewhat comforting to know that you are understood. <33

  34. Chopinand @ ChopinandMysaucepan

    Dear Hannah,

    I’m so sorry to hear about your friend Jerome. No doubt his memory lives on and what a beautiful way that you have honoured a friend. Be well.

  35. Julia @ Boredom Abounds

    Hannah, I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ll be thinking of you.

  36. Dienna

    Hannah, I’m sorry for your loss. Jerome sounds like he was a great person.

  37. Karly

    I am so sorry to read this my dear. How cruel life can be sometimes. But I’m glad u have so many lovely memories. BIG hugs xoxoxoxo

  38. ck

    Hannah, like everyone who has commented, I am very sorry for your loss, and also, for the terrible sadness and loss all of the family and friends of this young man will be feeling. I also feel very truly sad for the community and the world, to have lost a young man who it sounds like he was one of life’s good ones, the kind of person we need on this earth. It’s not fair, but loss is indeed a significant part of life, and one we must experience and learn and grow from. The only thing I can say of any sort of comfort, I think the loss of your friend, who sounds so special, should remind every single one of us to live every single day to the best of our ability, to make the most of our lives, in honour of people like your friend Jerome. We owe it to him and all those like him.

  39. Amelia

    For months now, I have often been overcome by despair when I’ve thought of the insufficiency of memory. I’d been dreading the moment when mine and Jerome’s memories together would become just my own.
    I have been realizing that holding on to things he’s said to me and the things we’ve experienced have become such precious treasures that I may choose to keep to myself or share with others. But most importantly, all of these tokens stem from the greater truth of who he was. For this reason, I take great comfort in your memories Hannah, and I hope that you do mine. I look forward to seeing you on Tuesday.
    – His adoring wife, Amelia

  40. Daisy@Nevertoosweet

    *LOTS AND LOTS OF HUGS* Hannah! I’m so sorry for your loss 🙁 Without knowing Jerome personally, I’m sure he was a great person. I still remember that first guy I had a crush on and until today he has a special place in my heart.

    Hope you’re feeling much better now and if you ever need to talk you know where to find me ~

  41. Hannah

    There really aren’t any words I have that can make this better… But I am so sorry. Sending you telepathic hugs, as tight as can be.

  42. Winston

    Hannah, I really am sorry for your loss. Death of a friend or family member is never easy but I do applaud, respect and appreciate you for sharing your life stories with us on this blog. Really do hope his family is doing well. Am sure you were nothing but a great friend to Jerome and never failed to brighten up his days. Supporting you always…

  43. Ashley

    Oh Hannah, there are no words, I’m so sorry for your loss. Your shared memories and recollection of him are beautiful, and I’m sure the world will feel his loss. I hope you and his family are doing okay. Internet hugs. x

  44. Emma

    Dearest darling Hannah sweetness,

    xo xo xo. Can I love someone I’ve never met? Possibly not, but I can indeed love your writing (and you know I do, even when, or perhaps especially when, it is serious and heartfelt). Hence, I will sign off with –


  45. CheezyK

    Words are failing me … love to you, to his family and to his friends in this mind-numbing, heart-breaking time.

  46. April

    Oh gosh, so sorry to hear Hannah *hugs* A life lost too young 🙁

    Hope you’re doing ok. I’m glad to see that through the sadness you can still re-live the happy memories and I’m sure Jerome is doing the same xx

  47. Vaala ◪

    I have no words to describe how sorry I am for your loss. He will always live on in your heart and in your memories. He will always be with you.

  48. Agnes

    I’m so sorry, love.

    Also sorry that I haven’t caught up on reading your blog so I’m very late in seeing this. Sigh. Sending hugs. xxxx

  49. elise

    i dont have much to say other than that im thinking of you. and your jerome’s family. hugs.

  50. Kath (My Funny Little Life)

    Oh Hannah … *hugs*

    I’m sure your friend is smiling down at you now. My mom once said that the ones he loves the most God calls back first, but I don’t know if this provides any comfort in this situation. I’m just thinking of you and wishing your friend is happy wherever he is now.

  51. Kath (My Funny Little Life)
  52. juniakk @ mis pensamientos

    moments such as these makes us realize that life is too short… not to love, forgive, take chances, do the things our hearts dream of.

    thinking and praying for his family.

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